As a teacher of high school children for more than 10 years now, it has been my observation that over this time, women (more specifically teenage girls I guess) have become more proactive, demanding, aggressive and most importantly, decisive in their academic career choices. Just look at the enrolment records for universities. Traditional male courses such as engineering, science, and mathematics, have, in most cases, now more than 50% female enrolment.
When I look at the teenage male population I see kids who are disenfranchised, lacking direction and generally downright lost in what to do with their lives. In general these males often have limited passion for anything academic and consequently have difficulty in reaching their full academic potential. In short, the new age male seems to have trouble defining what to do with his life and drifts around aimlessly whether it be in a job or at university. The only things that seem to motivate them are video games and sports.
I have often pondered over the direction our society was taking. What would the world be like when women are in the position of power that they seem destined to achieve? Originally I had thought that we would see this shift take place in 15 or 20 years as these current university graduates scale the ladders of the corporate and political worlds. Recently though, it has dawned on me that despite their recent advances and seeming decisiveness, women are destined to lose this advantage and will likely fail to achieve any significant power in the corporate or political worlds. What caused this shift in my thoughts? As I said, recent observations of women who upon reaching their early twenties are being held back from achieving their full potential by their own emotional baggage.
This is what I have seen. Young ladies do indeed have the passion and drive to succeed in high school and university but at some point early on their life (usually late teens or early 20’s) they decided that it is vitally important to have a companion in their life. This is not new - guys go through it as well - or at least we did. Unfortunately, when these girls choose a partner - more often than not they choose a guy who has very little passion and drive for success. Why do they choose such a person? That I can’t answer but to be fair, as I’ve stated previously, given the state of today’s male population, they have very little to choose from in the first place. This then is the problem.
The drive and passion that these young women had seems to be sucked from them by their lifeless partner. Young women who at first seemed destined for greatness begin to lose their motivation and much like their partner they start to drift about aimlessly, looking for that easy way through life. It seems the way of the world that the lowest common denominator always manages to bring the average down. I guess this makes sense - if you put a rose in a jar with dog shit you will never get a nice smelling turd. Have you ever seen a troubled kid fall into a group of highly motivated ‘good’ kids and get out of trouble? Need more proof - consider the number of examples you have heard about in which a husband actually demotivates his overweight wife from losing weight. It is out of fear. Even though he may complain she is too fat, he doesn’t really want her to change because it would threaten the status quo that has been established in their marriage.
So there it is. My theory in its early infancy. Today’s females, though seemingly more motivated than ever before, are doomed to failure because they can’t get past the need to have a unsupportive, demotivating significant other in their life. As I’ve said, I have seen it far too often over these last 2 or 3 years and it is troublesome. The old adage of “Behind every successful man is a good woman” seems to be changing to “Behind every potentially successful women is a slug of a man dragging her back to the kitchen”.
As a teacher of high school children for more than 10 years now, it has been my observation that over this time, women (more specifically teenage girls I guess) have become more proactive, demanding, aggressive and most importantly, decisive in their academic career choices. Just look at the enrolment records for universities. Traditional male courses such as engineering, science, and mathematics, have, in most cases, now more than 50% female enrolment. 
When I look at the teenage male population I see kids who are disenfranchised, lacking direction and generally downright lost in what to do with their lives. In general these males often have limited passion for anything academic and consequently have difficulty in reaching their full academic potential. In short, the new age male seems to have trouble defining what to do with his life and drifts around aimlessly whether it be in a job or at university. The only things that seem to motivate them are video games and sports.
I have often pondered over the direction our society was taking. What would the world be like when women are in the position of power that they seem destined to achieve? Originally I had thought that we would see this shift take place in 15 or 20 years as these current university graduates scale the ladders of the corporate and political worlds. Recently though, it has dawned on me that despite their recent advances and seeming decisiveness, women are destined to lose this advantage and will likely fail to achieve any significant power in the corporate or political worlds. What caused this shift in my thoughts? As I said, recent observations of women who upon reaching their early twenties are being held back from achieving their full potential by their own emotional baggage.
This is what I have seen. Young ladies do indeed have the passion and drive to succeed in high school and university but at some point early on their life (usually late teens or early 20’s) they decided that it is vitally important to have a companion in their life. This is not new - guys go through it as well - or at least we did. Unfortunately, when these girls choose a partner - more often than not they choose a guy who has very little passion and drive for success. Why do they choose such a person? That I can’t answer but to be fair, as I’ve stated previously, given the state of today’s male population, they have very little to choose from in the first place. This then is the problem. 
The drive and passion that these young women had seems to be sucked from them by their lifeless partner. Young women who at first seemed destined for greatness begin to lose their motivation and much like their partner they start to drift about aimlessly, looking for that easy way through life. It seems the way of the world that the lowest common denominator always manages to bring the average down. I guess this makes sense - if you put a rose in a jar with dog shit you will never get a nice smelling turd. Have you ever seen a troubled kid fall into a group of highly motivated ‘good’ kids and get out of trouble? Need more proof - consider the number of examples you have heard about in which a husband actually demotivates his overweight wife from losing weight. It is out of fear. Even though he may complain she is too fat, he doesn’t really want her to change because it would threaten the status quo that has been established in their marriage.
So there it is. My theory in its early infancy. Today’s females, though seemingly more motivated than ever before, are doomed to failure because they can’t get past the need to have a unsupportive, demotivating significant other in their life. As I’ve said, I have seen it far too often over these last 2 or 3 years and it is troublesome. The old adage of “Behind every successful man is a good woman” seems to be changing to “Behind every potentially successful women is a slug of a man dragging her back to the kitchen”.
2 comments:
Tis a sad theory, but one that makes me think.....and hope that you are wrong...
perhaps a part of it is parenting style...perhaps it is the slowness with which our culture actually accepts change....the messages recieved from multi-media/advertising/popular music and family have not changed all that much... there are a lot of perhaps....
women have come a long way in the past 60 years....but we still have a long way to go....
as to the part of your theory b/n young males and females....I do know that with the two I am closest to, my daughter is much better at going after what she wants, while her older brother is still drifting (sigh)
My personal theory is that young people have nothing to fight against or for..
they've had too many privileges and rights for way too long, and as a result they just become leeches.
I'm embracing the whole Bush taking away our personal freedoms slowly and methodically.
only because maybe it'll awaken our childrens inner rebel..give them a cause.
We're americans dammit..we're fighters ( maybe unfortunately
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